There’s a simple concept that sometimes I struggle with: do what you say you’re going to do, when you say you’re going to do it. Doing what you said you were going to do, when you said you would do it is the easiest way to earn trust. To help combat my inability to do this, I started writing everything down on a white pad.
Technology has thrown us a curveball known as the cell phone. If you’re running late, choosing to skip an event, or changing plans, you can just text. No face-to-face interaction is necessary. Heck, you don’t even have to talk to the interested parties. Nope, just send them a text. At that point, their response isn’t necessary. Now, you can say you’re going to do everything and then just text when you realize you don’t want to do anything.
Look, I’m not at all saying I’m above this, because I’m not. I’m guilty of a last minute change of plans and informing someone via text. All I’m saying is I think we’re better than this. Being honest up front – “no, I can’t go to that thing because I’m busy” – will earn you trust with your social group. As opposed to texting an excuse at the last minute.